Being a mom and making friends is hard. I moved Toronto 5 years ago this August and I have 1 actual friend in this City.
Why? Well to put it as nicely as I can, I don’t like many people. I don’t like fake people or fair-weather friends, and often that’s what I have found here and tried hard to stay away from.
It’s so important as a mom to build and have lasting friendships, so what do I do?
I have the best of friends online and back home. Not only is this good for my sanity but it is also less invasive and less drama. The people I have met in person here have turned out to be just that, drama. I don’t need drama, I have children who provide enough of that during the day for me I don’t need it from grown women. I do have one very good and loyal friend, she’s there when we both need each other or to just chat about nothing. Sadly, she lives across town but she’s there.
I will make good friendships where I can. If that’s online, then so be it. I’ve made very good and year long friendships that are still going strong.
Like minded people, other mom’s and other bloggers. People who know what I am going through, dealing with and can relate to each other on many levels.
I know some people need that offline interaction and want more than just online friendships but it’s not bad wanting both or even like me just one, I don’t think. If I could meet people like the ones I’ve found online offline I know it would be different, but sadly my time right now is limited and I don’t get out much. Maybe when my kids are older I will be able to strike up some friendships off the Interweb but for now, I am extremely happy with who I am and who I’ve become very close with.. Even if we can’t go out for coffee or gab on the phone everyday! At least they are there when I need them, not fake and are true friendships. I haven’t had that in years since I moved offline, and I am so thankful to have them at all.
Is it more important to make friendships off line than on? What do you think?
About Jeanine Macintosh
Jeanine is a 29 year old, stay at home mom to 6 kids living in Toronto, Canada. She loves everything about Babies and Kids! When she’s not blogging, she can be found testing products for review, babywearing, playing with her littles or her zoo of furbabies and baking from scratch! You can find out more about Jeanine by visiting her at SixTimeMommy.com.