This week my kids started back at school. I’m going to just jump right into what I want to say because today on the walk home from drop off, and then again on the walk home from pick up I was shocked at what I saw.
Moms, Dads, Older Sisters and Brothers, Neighbors and Friends who pick up kids from school:
Please put down your smart phone and greet the children. I noticed a very sad pattern this week and it is kids being ignored at drop off and pick up for a phone or person next to them chit chatting. The convo, the text, the instagram, the phone call and voicemail can wait 5 minutes while you say good-bye to the child who obviously is having a hard time adjusting to this new schedule of 6 hours away from home. When the child is crying and not wanting to go inside, but your too busy looking at your phone and typing a message to give a second thought. Scooting them inside, and turning away to walk towards your car. How sad it is for these kids to have to feel alone, scared, and more than likely unimportant during a very critical time of the first week back to school.
Say good-bye at drop off and give a hug to those having a hard time: My son cried the first 2 days. I had to walk him to his class, and wait for him to find dinosaurs in the class bins before he would say “Okay, bye mommy!” and feel comfortable enough for me to leave. He’s 4, and knows I’m there for him.
Have a big smile, give a big hug, ask how the day was, and greet your child after school:
Standing in the heat is awful, soon it will be cold and winter. That is also awful, I get it. I pick up one child at 3, and the other three at 310/315 I get it. But, when those little kiddos come out those doors excited to see you, and tell you about their day… Give them a few minutes of your time by showing them you care, you missed them and their day was important.
I know we all have things going on, our lives are busy and we sometimes get lost in all things we are doing with work, social and personal but when it comes to sending kids to school – I feel kids really need to know they are missed, their day is important and we are there for them.
I’ve been guilty of too much phone time, we aren’t perfect. We all do things, and make mistakes but this week really opened my eyes and showed me how sad these things make kids. It was heartbreaking to watch. Some kids sighed, others put their heads down as they walked away, while another visably cried as the teacher walked her into school (and she wasn’t new, she was in grade 2) she just wanted her mom to talk with her, see how she was doing and mom was too busy.
I rush on my walk to pick up my kids. I can’t wait to find out how their days have been, what they did and my 4 year-old who just started his very first day of school, and 6 hours away from us on the 8th who I pick up first always has loads of stories to tell me.. I need him and my other children to know, when they are gone although I am busy doing work, homeschooling big brother, taking care of their baby brother and getting things done around the house they are important, I think about them and what they go through in the 6 hours away from me; I’m there to listen.
About Jeanine Macintosh
Jeanine is a 29 year old, stay at home mom to 6 kids living in Toronto, Canada. She loves everything about Babies and Kids! When she’s not blogging, she can be found testing products for review, babywearing, playing with her littles or her zoo of furbabies and baking from scratch! You can find out more about Jeanine by visiting her at SixTimeMommy.com.